Good parenting is not over-scheduling your kids

Some parents fear that their children will miss out if they are not participating in the same extra-curricular activities as their friends. We don’t want our kid to be the only child who can’t play a music instrument. 

Parents should not be guilted into believing that more extra curricular activities equals good parenting. On the contrary, over-scheduling kids is a recipe for increasing childhood anxiety.

Don't turn into a Tiger Parent. We defined tiger parents as those who practice positive and negative parenting strategies simultaneously. Tiger parents often exhibit a strict parenting style that pushes children to excel either in sport or academically, at all costs. If their child does not excel, a tiger parent may feel ashamed instead of supportive. 

If your child is so booked up that you have to say no to birthday parties, sleepovers, or other fun events as they may distract your child from their achievements. You may be a tiger parent and be causing anxiety and emotional distress in your children as a result. 

Please do not structure your childs play. Let them have home days and tech free play, their way. In his free time, my son loves creating with clay and drawing while my daughter is obsessed with slime and barbies. Imaginative play is great for her and I love listening to her little role plays. 

Allow your child to do perhaps one of two extra curricular activities. If they are keen on any more then ask them to choose. If your child doesn't want to attend any more, it's important that you discuss being a team player and explain commitment. Once the season is over, they can change instruments or sports. 

Parenting is not meant to be easy but you can make it fun if you do not overbook your family and allow down time for all.