Being a Mother is a full time job, while your children are still living at home you have constant responsibilities to keep the household running. If you are not doing things for the kids, you are considering the entire family in every action. Even deciding what to have for dinner is not always Mums choice of food, as I know I choose what the family will eat over my personal desires. There are things that the kids and husbands, Partners ca do on a regular basis to relieve Mothers of the constant pressure. Try some of the below and see Mums happiness at home grow.
1. Offer to cook for the family.
Having a YOYO night (You’re On Your Own) ,where Mum does not have to even consider whether she has the ingredients for dinner for the family, is such a weight of her shoulders. Let hubby and the kids sort themselves out by cooking meals such as Taco's or with leftovers, toast or similar.
Mum step back to allow the others to step up.
I find kids find Airfryers easier to operate, then an oven so have these things handy so the kids can help. They will also turn themselves off which is safe for the family.
2. Ask Mum " What can I do to help"
This is really important to Mum.
But do you know what would be even better? Just do helpful things without being told too.
It shouldn’t be up to Mum to have to tell everyone how or when to help and she certainly should not have to follow up and then feel the disappointment that you didn't do it because you forgot or got sidetracked. Get stuff done without needing to be asked.
If the bin is full, empty it.
If the dishwasher is full empty it.
If the clothes hamper is full, put a load of washing on.
If you see the floor needs a quick vac or mop, give it one.
If you are going out, get your own Jacket.
If you pooped in the toilet, check to see if you should clean the toilet.
Empty your lunch box and make your own school lunch.
Iron your own school uniform.
The list goes on.... :)
Be mindful that Mum is a Mum not a maid. If you live at home and you are capable, pitch in and see your Mums happiness and most of all, pride grow.
3. Drop your personal agenda and help Mum achieve her dreams.
This includes actually asking Mum if she has free time what would she like to do with it. If Mum always wanted to do a pottery class or join the gym again, by assisting at home you are creating the free time that she needs to fill her happy bucket.
Consider everything that you say and do from the perspective of kindness. If something is not kind or necessary, simply do not say it to Mum or to your siblings. After all, fighting kids is one of Mums biggest stresses and disappointments. Everyone, don't sweat the small stuff and don't use arguments with siblings to get Mums attention.
How you treat your very own Mother is an indication for how girls expect to be treated and how boys will learn to treat their wife or partner one day. Be sure that it's helpful, kind and considerate.
Husbands or partners should always try to bring a first-date mentality into the house. Don't take Mum for granted, be the Dad you want your kids to see as a role model on how to treat a lady. Understand that housework is not enjoyable, so pitch in and be sure to say thank you on days that are not just Mothers day.
Make Mothers Day every day. A random I love you Mum gift,
means the world. Don't just say thank you and make Mum breakfast because some silly calendar told you too. Be sincere and honest and appreciative. My 9 year old daughter said thank you for taking her to netball and letting her go to McDonalds with her friends yesterday. It made my day that she realised that I gave up my time for her and she thanked me.
There are so many ways to say I love you Mum, do something nice for Mum everyday.